unrequited love
yearning laid so deep
i aim to wait patiently
for love once again to break
Johnny & June Cash
speak of true love's existence
alignment of souls does exist
i've met their reality
perhaps only to be made a fool
nevertheless
boldly i choose love
and fall into the ring of fire
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johnny and june cash: that's something i wish i understood in light of God's desire. I don't know the story, but I heard that johnny left his former wife and married june? if that's true, what is true love? staying w/ the spouse you have already and dukin it out w/ the love that loves no matter what, through thick and thin, or leave because you've found your "soul mate". this question distubes me. what do you think about it?
well, obviously adultery is wrong. and since everyone seeks to have a johnny and june relationship, what does one do when their life takes a different path? press on, right? so if we think we've found our soul mate, and then later we decide they werent our soul mate, and we have found another, should we stay w/ the former? and wouldn't that make soul mate unrealistic?
i loved the poem, though.
I wouldn't take the "soul mate" thing so literally necessarily, and what intrigues me about John/June and others I've met is the intensity that existed between them. Love is a choice; a way of living no doubt, but there is also no denying the "cosmic" aspect of it. I've experienced it myself and it leaves a perminent imprint that's hard to deny or shake.
I think another interesting thing about John & June is part of their connection was laid in the foundation of the style of life they both wanted to live - their collective dream and direction. A very worthy consideration when considering a life mate.
Once you're in it - it's what you make you of it, and I don't think we're meant to commit break commitment and repeat. Enough for now.......
so if the "foundation of the style of life they both wanted to live - their collective dream and direction" was the same in the beginning, what if it changes on down the road dramatically, would you say there was no foundation there to begin with? or rather, what if the only foundation is Christ..but the details of ones personality and temperments drastically differ..and on down the road..it doesnt feel like there is the "intensity-connection". what would one do? would you say this is just a matter of sin and the couple needs to work through it, because the only neccessary foundation to being a soulmate is Christ? or should it be more detailed, like being tempermentally compatible?
guess i should clarify a bit - to me the collective dream is Christ; which to me means entering into a life of certain uncertainty. It will inevitably change along the way but if the core, which is what I think you're getting at, is there it won't matter. We are also cognitive emotive beings so I would think it would be wise to use these faculties as well in choosing a mate. Temperment compatability does matter. Will the "intensity" always be there - most likely no - that's when love becomes solidified and we choose.
I'm not sure if it's either/or maybe both/and. There's no denying people that seem to have some sort of chemistry with one another.
how each person views the manifestation of following the Master I want to say matters. I don't think it would be a good idea for someone whose "style" would lead them....oh lets say to be a yodeler in the himalayas to marry someone whose "style" is in opposition to yodeling and the himalayas.
the more i write the stupidier i feel.
yes, i think it is both/and also. so that's probably why people say get to know the other well first. the question i would have is, how well, and how long must two get to know . do u just go w/ your feelings and get married? because what if two people got married based on the "sparks"? maybe i'm making this too complicated. thanks though for the discussion.
no, that makes perfect sense, not stupid.
i was talking with a friend of mine who is a therapist about this very thing. He said the initial thought was the more you know the better, go in eyes wide open and the marriage will last. Turns out time has proved the theory wrong. Seems the most important thing is how you view the other person.
what do you mean by view?
something along the lines of when I look at this person what do I see? Am I looking through the eyes of love or through different eyes?
yes, despite our understanding on choosing a mate, falling in love, soulmate, or having an arranged marriage, one thing is for sure, and probably the most important. we must endure and love no matter what the circumstances are. i certainly don't have this all figured out. but thankfully we have God, his truth, his help, his people, antidepressants, herbs, mountains, water, fresh air, sunshine, beer, wine..etc.
wow.
quite the discussion.
who are you o anonymous one?
i like this, it makes me laugh:
" but thankfully we have God, his truth, his help, his people, antidepressants, herbs, mountains, water, fresh air, sunshine, beer, wine..etc. "
you forgot the ocean. :)
don't forget music and art either.
for sure.
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